A flirty text relationship should work the same way a conversation works in real life.Texts should be back and forth – a message, a reply, and so on.If you suddenly realize you haven’t been to yoga class in four weeks, your friends think you were abducted by aliens, and you can’t get in the door of your house for the pile of unopened mail, the relationship probably needs a breather—so it can live a long and healthy life. The electric sizzle between you practically melts the furniture in the coffee shop.Holding off on intimacy is like putting a cork in a steam locomotive. Too much high voltage intimacy too soon can—and frequently does—blow the fuse on a brand-new relationship. “Penciling each other in” may seem a bit formal at first.
In my book, Think: Straight Talk for Women to Stay Smart in a Dumbed-Down World, I reveal that fifteen to eighteen percent of girls under twelve now wear mascara, eyeliner and lipstick regularly; eating disorders are up and self-esteem is down; and twenty-five percent of young American women would rather win America’s next top model than the Nobel Peace Prize. She currently lives in Los Angeles where she runs her law firm, The Bloom Firm.
If you’ve been reading my newsletters long enough, you know that while such events are all encouraging, none of them qualify as “real”.
Real only happens when it’s clear that a man is your committed boyfriend.
Likewise, if they are bombarding you with texts, then maybe they are going to be a lot of work – AKA . Even if you are a night owl and 1am is 9pm to other mortals, don’t go there until s/he has a chance to get to know you.
Some people like this, some people don’t – it’s up to you to decide. You’re being a “Jack Of All Topics” Once again, continuity is super important. Most people see late night texts as an attempt at a “booty call”.