He might just leave you in the same circumstances as he left his ex-wife. While divorce statistics among first-time marriages are relatively high, the divorce rate dramatically spikes for couples in their second or third marriage. Who they’re cheating with usually has little to do with it.
Even as the mistress, you know you’re not the only one. As a result, mistresses are often devastated when a married man leaves his wife — but ends up needing “me time” in the wake of a divorce.
Or do you think you'd be able to change that thinking in time, so you'd stick it out? My life goals were to be remarried by the time I was 30, and definitely to be remarried before my ex-husband.
When I started dating Ryan, at first it was this casual thing, but when we fell in love I had to re-evaluate my priorities because he was staunchly anti-marriage. I'll say it: I think it's cowardly," says Diana, 36.
When I started dating again I knew that getting married again wasn't on my list of absolutes but was an on the table discussion topic depending on how important it was to the person I was in a committed relationship with.
The truth is that staying monogamous is a challenge.
It must be, or there wouldn’t be so much infidelity.
Acknowledging this inevitability means my boyfriend and I can deal with it from within our relationship instead of pretending we’ll only ever have eyes (and maybe hands and lips and everything else) for each other.2.
Recently, I have found myself in a life-changing relationship, and I’ve come to the conclusion she is “the one.” Every relationship before her, I realize now, would have been me just settling, just doing what I think society wanted me to do.
I’ve talked to friends who were once married or are in a relationship with someone who was once married, and I’ve learned that dating or committing to someone who was once married or engaged can cause some problems.