Growing up as a Jehovah’s Witness (JW) can warp and twist a young person’s mind about many activities, sex in particular. Sitting in the Kingdom Hall as a young child, I would hear talks about sex, but they were, for the most part, warnings about what not to do—what was moral and what was not— but mostly not. So I promised myself that as soon I found out what the heck they were, I would never do them.
Masturbation was wrong, mutual masturbation was wrong, and both oral and anal sex were wrong. As I grew up, I came to understand what sex is really all about, according to Watchtower teachings. Well yes, but I also learned that sex was something that married couples do or “due”, as in “paying your dues”.
As for the articles I have read on your site, I have read them thoroughly and I like what you said in one of your articles: ‘…that a person who is truly in love with another person should be able to put their relationship with that person before any commitment to a human organization (such as the Watchtower Society).’ I see nothing wrong with our relationship being that she doesn’t claim the Jehovah’s Witness religion but her parents do.
Is it possible to go to an elder to ask for his blessing on our relationship?
I had already told him I have a boyfriend but that did not deter him (though, I lied) I used that to see how serious he was, with time I came to like him, everyday we called ourselves on the phone, when I am leaving the office, I would call him on phone and tell him I was leaving the office so we would meet at the bus stop, his office happens to be in Ikoyi while mine in V.
I, we would chat till we alight and walk down to my gate, he happens to be Yoruba while I am Ibo but that was not a problem as I was ready to face any challenge our tribal differences would bring about, but on one faithful evening when we were gisting, he said something to me and said from a “Jehovah’s Witness point of view” I was shocked to the bone and I stopped talking and was staring at him and I said, what did u just say because when I earlier asked him the church he attended he told me he was a “Christian on Vacation” that he was still looking around to see a very good church to attend and I also know I had invited him to come to my church and he had turned down the offer so he repeated the same thing he said and I said to him “Why did u keep this from me till now?
And since the family must expand, "many Witnesses naturally meet their future spouses here," says Uwe Langhals, another spokesman, who has been a Jehovah's Witness since he was 15.
I also heard from the platform and from people at the Hall how it was not good for a man to be alone; that he needed a wife to satisfy his sexual needs.
Men who remained single too long may not function properly and women needed to be available for marriage to the single brothers; that it was “selfish for a woman to stay alone when there were brothers available.” The only exceptions were for women who “pioneered” full-time.
They arrive in caravans, bringing Tupperware, coolers, blankets and, most importantly, their Bibles.
Here they can pray among peers, feeling a sense of community instead of isolation.